When you hate it! What to do when you really want to leave your job. -The Imperfect Org

 

 

Don’t dwell on what you hate. Think of it as your thoughts being the match that ignites the flame.
Dwelling on the aspects that you dislike, annoy, irritate, and infuriate you does nothing but continually add fuel to the fire.  There are many things in life that will torture us if we keep our minds circling around those prevailing thoughts. So why torture yourself in overthinking and dwelling on something you hate.  It will do nothing but add to your stress, and increase anxiety prone illnesses.  So do yourself a favor, STOP THINKING!”
Find ways to distract yourself
In tough situations, our minds want nothing more than to be free from that which invokes any sort of discomfort. In the case where you cannot stop your mind from dwelling on those “unpleasant thoughts”. Find ways to safely disengage them, while you work.
Music (safely played through ear buds) or short breaks outside, may help to break up your day and your mind from those bombarding thoughts.  Motivational quotes have the power to center you and provide that extra strength and support, to get you through a workday.
Remember there are just some things that are out of your (and management’s) control. 
In life, much like the “serenity prayer”, there will be those situations that no matter how much you brew over them, nothing will change. So the best thing you can do for your mental state establishes the difference.  Know what is in your control, and what is not.
How do you do this you ask? Do your job to the best of your ability.  If something is preventing that, alert management, but here is the key part, once you have done that, distance yourself from the issue at hand.
If you have alerted the people who are in charge of fixing the issue, the ball is now in their court.  Just as you would do with passing a football or basketball in a game, let your teammate or manager take it from there and allow them the time to do their part. It is important to “know when to focus your attention on something, and when to ignore”.
If all else fails, or if you have a “lazy” manager, seek the assistance of upper management or HR. Whatever you do, deliver the issue over to them and then drop it.  You were not meant to save the world.
It is all about survival mode.  You are there for the paycheck.
Nothing seems to motivate us more than money.  It is really unavoidable.  We need money to survive! Since this is the case, if nothing else distracts, distract those pesky thoughts by thinking of the money that you will lose if you were to loss or leave your job.  The contract or job is for you to do the work, and for your company to pay you for it.  Remember this is your number one reason for doing the job you were hired to do.  So do your job, earn your paycheck, and leave the rest of your worry in the workplace when you leave.
Don’t focus on the problems.  Think of solutions, while being the best ‘you’ you can be.
Thinking this way will help you focus on productivity and not those things that rob you from it.  It can also keep you from becoming bitter.
Being another possible and welcomed distraction while you are becoming solution minded can make you a more valuable employee while passing the time until something else substantial comes along.
Know when it’s time to leave. Remember this is not your last stop!
Nothing resides more to your consciousness than having that knowing, that gut feeling that tells you, “It is time to leave”!  When you feel it, do not ignore it.  Timing is everything within the job market.  If you have made it to this side of the coin, it means that you can no longer distract yourself, and money is no longer a motivator.  So follow your instinct, prepare your resume, prepare your business attire, and get the heck out!
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Author: theimperfectorg

“Joi Su”, has been diligently working to help bridge the gap between what people expect in any organization and what they receive. Joi Su has earned a Master’s degree in Organization Development and a Bachelors in Psychology with an emphasis on Applied Behavioral Analysis.

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